Must for the Bride to Be

As plans ramp up and your focus is THE WEDDING at the expense of other aspects of your life, take the advice of many wedding planners and Practice Self Care. Do whatever you need to do to unwind, relax and sleep well. Take your vitamins, get healthy exercise and find emotional outlets for the stress you are under. Remember your groom. Do fun things together and plan together. This is not the time to get run down and “catch” the bug that is making the rounds. You need to be healthy and strong and resilient.


Get and stay organized. Start early and document every decision made around your special day. It doesn’t matter if you have high tech records or sheets of paper clipped together or in file folders or paper bags. Whatever system works for you- implement it early and keep it current.

Set a budget and stick to it. Early on the couple should sit down together and decide how much they can afford to spend on the wedding and where they feel it should be spent. Agree on priorities. Talk honestly with parents about their willingness and ability to contribute to the wedding. Look at the major expense items – reception costs, honeymoon, clothing, photographs, entertainment, and flowers. Working within those guidelines makes other decisions easier.



Remember to be grateful for all that you have and all that others are doing for you. You will get gifts, good wishes and offers of assistance. Remember to thank everyone for their offers. Weddings are joyous affairs and people want to be a part of a positive and exciting event that a marriage truly is.



Remember your plans and don’t be derailed. You’ve set your budget and made significant decisions. Don’t be tempted to play “one ups manship”. You’ll go to other weddings while planning yours and see lots of ideas. Some you’ll want to copy and others you won’t but before you do, remember your budget. This is your wedding – not a copy of your old college roommate’s big day. She had her event. You’ll have yours.



Let go of bridal guilt. No one can make everyone happy all the time. Worrying about it takes up far more time and energy than is deserved. Sometimes guilt is good. It can help us deal with the feelings of others. But most of the time, we are afraid we’ve let someone down. Do your best to be aware of the feelings of others and honor them when you can. But on the wedding day, you are there to please yourself and your groom as you begin your new life together.



For ideas or answers to your questions call Kristin Anderson at 708-268-7528 or email weddingsbykristin@yahoo.com

Gifts you give

There are many special people who help make your wedding day a success. It is a nice token to say thank you for their help or their presence. Brides come to us for advice on what to give to members of the bridal party, to families and to guests. We have plenty of ideas that we are happy to share with our brides. Here are some of our guest gift favorites.


• Some of the most popular wedding favors are edibles. Wrapped chocolates or truffles in an attractive box that is imprinted with the couple’s names and date are a big favorite. Also popular are chocolate covered pretzels, nuts, fruits as well as chocolate hearts. In many areas, couples choose to give cookies frosted in wedding colors and packaged in tulle or color matched gift boxes. Some brides have chosen to give small wine bottles with personalized labels with or without wine charms that bear the wedding date and/or names of the couple.

• Couples are also giving living items that bloom and grow like your marriage. Weddings with garden motifs, environmentally themed weddings and ceremonies in outdoor or rustic settings choose favors like potted plants, seedlings, flower seed packets and miniature bamboo shoot plants.

• Other brides prefer a permanent keepsake that is both useful and attractive. Some of the favorites are picture frames, candles and candleholders, glass bowls filled with colored sand or rocks, small books or albums, CDs with favorite songs, ornaments for Christmas weddings, coffee mugs with coffee or hot chocolate packets tucked inside.

• Some couples are choosing to make a donation to a favorite charity rather than provide a gift item. In that case, a printed card is included in each place setting which informs the guest of the donation.

• Be sure that each item has a thank you note attached. They are likely to be pre printed although handwritten notes are lovely as well.

• The placement of favors depends on space available. Many brides have the favors arranged on a separate table near the exit for guests to make their own selections. Or you can ask a friend or friends to help with the distribution as guests leave the party.

• Grouping the favors in the center of the table in an attractive basket or on a mirror does double duty. It insures a centerpiece without incurring the cost of flowers, and thanks the guests for sharing in your special day.

Work with one of our consultants for more ideas on ways to thank wedding guests and special friends.

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Cake Layers

We would like to share some fun thoughts about wedding cakes.

The cutting of the cake has historic roots.  In ancient Rome the first bites of a wheat cake were eaten by the couple and the remainder crumbled and tossed over the bride’s head like a rain of flour – a fertility rite believed to guarantee the couple lots of kids and a life of plenty.

There is a tradition that says a bridesmaid who carries a slice of wedding cake in her pocket until the honeymoon is over will marry soon.  But not too many bridesmaids today care to carry a gradually drying slab of sugar and flour into the office with them.

According to some customs, small silver ornaments can be taped onto ribbons and placed on a plate under the cake.  Before it is cut, single females pull on a ribbon end to see what ornament they receive.  Each one is symbolic.  A wedding ring signifies marriage, a heart – love, an anchor – hope and a fleur de lis – wealth.

It is also said that guests who put a sliver of the groom’s cake under their pillows will dream of their future spouses.  You have no doubt heard of groom’s cake and wonder if you should serve one at your reception.  For a while it was not widely used, but today’s brides are reviving the tradition.

Typically, the groom’s cake is a dark, rich fruitcake.  But that is also changing.  Whatever its flavor and theme, it can be featured as a companion cake to the more familiar white frosted bride’s cake.  Some weddings have both cakes available for guests and on display.  Some brides elect to have an iced groom’s cake as the top layer of the bride’s cake.  Others choose to pack slices of the groom’s cake in small boxes and have bridesmaids or other helpers distribute them for everyone to take home as a sweet memento of the wedding.

Contact us for more ways to combine or revive traditions for your unique wedding.

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Cost saving ideas!

The National Retail Federation commissioned a survey on consumer spending conducted by a major research firm.  There were many economic indicators that tended to vary by product area.  But when asked to summarize the findings, the conclusion was “Spend where you need to, save where you can.”  This is good advice for our brides.  Couples coming to us for ideas on how to save money without hurting their wedding dreams find wonderful and practical ideas.

We always counsel our brides to be aware of ways to either bring costs down or keep them in check.  Done in the right places, there are many ways to save on costs and take nothing away from the wedding they have planned.

Because it is the most costly aspect of most wedding plans, major savings can be realized through reception adjustments.  We recommend that our brides consider these ideas.

• Look for a location that both fits the occasion and requires very little decorating enhancements.  Many spots are fine the way they are.  If brides wish to add décor, most event planners would agree that creating one large decorative element is not only dramatic, but also more budget friendly than a dozen smaller elements scattered around the room.

• When considering decorating options, always picture the room full.  We counsel brides not to spend excess dollars on décor items that only the first few guests walking into the room will see.  Don’t waste money on decorating the skirting of any of the tables for instance.  As one wedding planner says, “Think tabletop and up”.

• During receptions, caterers will say that people tend to take less food if it is passed by the wait staff than if it is placed on a buffet table.  The same is true of champagne or other beverages.  The good news about this is that less food or liquor can be ordered and guests still feel pampered.

• If it is important to the couple to serve a sit down dinner, we suggest that instead of ordering just one high-end entrée they order half portions of two main entrée items.  For example, combining half portions of prime rib and chicken breast, helps to bring down the cost per plate while offering guests a selection with depth.

• One consultant suggests ordering sandwiches for entertainers and servers instead of the full banquet meal, and having them set up in a separate room from wedding guests.  It gives the staff a place to “get away” for a break and provides food that they can “grab and go” if needed.

For more “invisible” ways to manage costs at your reception, talk with one of our experienced consultants.

Invitation Tips

Because the invitations reflect the tone of your wedding they should be considered early on in your planning activities.  Once you have developed your guest list, selected your ceremony and reception venues and decided on the degree of formality you wish to express throughout your wedding, you can comfortably begin to search for your invitations and other printed materials. Do not be overwhelmed by the myriad of choices that are available for you.  At one time, there were few options in paper and print styles.  Today’s bride has a wide range of both from which to select. 

Consider these points as you shop for your paper trousseau.

• Take your business to a store that specializes in wedding papers.  The staff there will have the expertise and experience to help you with paper selections and correct wordings.  Their advice can end up saving you time and often money as well.
• You will likely be ordering more than just invitations so consider these other items as well:

Save the date cards, insert cards (directions or other information) RSVP cards, place cards and table assignment charts, menus, thank you cards, programs and of course the invitations.  Figure in all of the options as you look at pricing.

• When you place your order, be sure to order extras of every item.  Make sure that you send one of everything to yourself when the rest go out so you can monitor the delivery dates.
• Be sure that you allow enough time to order, address and send the invitation packages.  Double check with your print specialist on the time frame required for satisfactory order completion.  Most experts agree that invitations should go out 6-8 weeks prior to the ceremony.
• Consider purchasing special issue postage stamps rather than just ordinary stamps.  Check with your local postal service for the options that may work for you.  Be sure to check on delivery times if you select a personalized stamp pattern.  Always take a sample of your fully “loaded” invitation package to the post office to verify the amount of postage to put on each.  How embarrassing to have it arrive at your guest’s home with “postage due”.
• Always, always double-check the proofs of the invitation copy.  Have someone else double check you as well.  It is easy to skip over and not notice errors in copy with which you are so familiar.  A misspelled name can cause unnecessary delays and expense.
• If children are being invited to the wedding and reception, their names are usually included on the envelope, clearly letting the parents know that the children are invited.  If children are not to be included, just the invited guest’s names are on the invitation.  This lets the parents know exactly for whom the invitation is intended.  If children are not being invited to attend – for whatever reason, plan how you will handle requests from guests who wish to bring their children.  Have alternative plans in place in case this becomes an issue.

When you are ready to begin the selection of your invitations and paper trousseau, be sure to spend time with one of our experienced consultants who can make sure you have a perfect invitation for your perfect wedding.